Friday, November 28, 2008

A Little Advice


So here's the deal. The Girl is an absolutely amazing young woman. She's strong, smart and has very clear and firm boundaries. Having the last six years free of the constant trauma, drama and chaos you brought to our lives has been refreshing. Given the years of hell you put us through, I remain skeptical, but she's nearly a grown woman and she's always had a mind of her own. It's up to her to decide the nature of her relationships. If you're less than genuine, she'll see right through the facade and shut you out again. You have no clue how fortunate you are that she's decided to allow you back into her life. Don't fuck it up this time.

4 comments:

Brunhilda said...

I assume Dad has initiated contact. I will hope for the best. I'm silly like that. I'm sure that if he does fuck up, you'll be there to set him straight!

Dr. Brainiac said...

Actually, The Girl initiated contact, mostly because she missed her grandparents, but partly because she doesn't like to hold a grudge and keeping him away didn't fit with her image of herself as a loving, kind person. She really is great at relationships with people so I think it's important that she make this one okay - as a psychologist. As her mom, I'd prefer to have maintained status quo, but it's not my relationship to manage and it's not my choice - it's hers. It's just one more testament to her amazing character. I've said this before, but I want to be like her when I grow up.

Brunhilda said...

Wow. She is an amazing person. That is very mature on her part, mature beyond her years. I will still hope it goes well for her. I'm sure it will on her end. I wish I had that capabillity. I am known to hold a grudge.

Dr. Brainiac said...

I'm known to hold a grudge too - there are only so many cheeks I have available to turn. Besides, the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. She doesn't remember most of what happened, but as a fiercely protective mama bear type, I do. I may forgive, but I never forget.